Divorce was once unheard of, but over the past few years it has become increasingly common. Earlier, when a girl got married, parents, grandparents, grandparents and other elders used to advise the girl that “going in a red couple, leaving in a white one.” With this phrase, the girl is mentally prepared. She used to have to do it.
Ever since the red couples have disappeared and been replaced by couples of other colors, this phrase has also become obsolete. Don’t come and say, take care of your husband, don’t ever use bad language” but now the case is opposite. Now the mothers already fill the ears of the girl that “there is no need to face the in-laws, they should move to a separate house as soon as possible.”
Sophia is the daughter of my college colleague, she got married ten years ago, the in-laws had two children, a brother-in-law and a mother-in-law. There were reasonable and cheerful people, the boy was employed in a multinational company, both Nandin and Deor also had jobs, mother-in-law was a retired school teacher, there was a tangled family, but after six months of marriage, Sophia got divorced.
Sophia’s mother was also very reasonable, she believed very badly of these values but Sophia’s friends taught her that your husband earns the most, so you should separate, Sophia started putting pressure on her husband. That he should take a separate house. He refused to listen to his wife. In the third month of marriage, Sophia came to Makkah and told her husband that if he did not get a separate house, she would divorce him. The mother-in-law asked the son to take a separate house. But he refused saying that he could not imagine living apart from his parents.
Sophia’s mother also explained, but she did not stop, the mother also said that if her sister-in-law also talks about living separately, how will she feel? But Sofia was haunted by the ghost of separation, in a last ditch effort, her husband and mother-in-law tried to convince her by going to her house, but Sofia had a chicken leg that she would be separated from her husband. After all, his friend Arifa also got separated after three months of marriage.
When it did not work out, the husband asked that “he should tell her his final decision” then she immediately said that she would either stay apart or he wanted a divorce. The marriage was done because of the boy’s choice and Sofia was also beautiful. So she was sure that her husband would obey her, but everyone was shocked when Sofia’s husband divorced her standing up.
Earlier, daughters used to come to me angry, then parents used to leave them back. In this way, girls used to feel that those who fought in a fight would not be their side, so they used to focus on their in-laws and husbands and handle unfavorable situations, but today it is the case that a mother-in-law or a mother-in-law When asked to do work, she sat down with eighty-eight khatwati. Or get angry and sit down, the mother patted her head and congratulated her that she did a great job coming, now don’t leave until she rubs her nose ten times. Not all are like that.
Many girls who are brought up well and properly by their mothers lead a happy life. There used to be a family in our neighborhood, they had only two sons, the husband i.e. the father of the sons had passed away, the mother taught school and brought up the children, when the time came for marriage, the elder son married the mother’s choice. Expressed the desire of At one point, the boy told the girl that he will never leave his mother. So if there is something in their mind that the girl talks about separation after marriage, then it is better to refuse now.
After almost nine years of marriage, the girl turned out to be so good that she made her mother-in-law an empress and thus won her husband’s heart. The mother-in-law is very happy with her grandchild, but the mother did not throw bamboo in the wells in search of a daughter-in-law, nor continued her search for a Chand-si daughter-in-law, but chose her schoolmate’s daughter and married Sanoli Saloni-si daughter-in-law. come on She knew that relationships based solely on looks don’t work, but unfortunately most of the family and the boys themselves are looking for the hooray.
To tell the truth, in our society, the urban and educated man is really oppressed, neither he can beat his wife, nor can he kick her out of the house, nor can he stop alimony. We have seen men who prepare the children for school, prepare the evening tea and listen to the blessings of the wife, the high blood of parents in their veins compels them to remain silent.
Wives of such men become lions and consider the family and family nobility of the husband as his weakness. Wise men drink this poison for the sake of children. In case of divorce, the children go through mental agony, wise men and women take care of it and solve many conflicting issues by themselves. But it is also an indisputable fact that mothers and fathers of girls disturb the affairs by interfering in their daughter’s house for no reason.
Girls staying in the house for many days, neglecting their husbands, disrespecting their in-laws from time to time and shouting at their elders sometimes create such problems that it doesn’t take long for the house to break up. Neither of them can drive unless they have strong nerves.
It is also a clear fact that women play a key role in building a home because wise mothers try to make them accustomed to restraint from the very beginning, but all this happened when the joint family system did not die. Now there is no one to stop the husband and wife and children, the joint system of life is now seen in a vacuum, but the joint family system is still successful in village Goths. There is no daughter-in-law asking for separation without reason. But in cities the case is completely opposite.
The husband recited two and the wife recited four. Result, divorce. No one thinks that a man and a woman will find their life partner after divorce, but children don’t get a mother or a father. His personality is shattered. The consequences of divorce are dire. After divorce, the children usually live with the mother and if the woman remarries, or if the children live with the father, neither the mother nor the father get the children. Who is not aware of the cruelty of stepmother and stepfather is no angel. The personality of children from broken homes is so badly shattered that they cannot become a good person in future. Children suffer from severe inferiority complex.
One of the reasons for the increasing trend of divorces is the search for a wealthy daughter-in-law by the boys. It has been seen that girls who bring a lot of dowry are not able to adjust to the in-laws. In their eyes, the status of husband is just like a “pet”. Marriage should always be done among people like one’s self, but this is also not an option. In fact, silly TV dramas have also increased the divorce rate. It is a matter of patience and forbearance, when the car of married life can run successfully.
